This week I would like to focus in on Fathers in the home and their importance. I recently read an article of the benefits of fathers in which I would like to share some of the insights I learned. If you want to read the full article I will post the link at the bottom.
Number 1. There is a certain way that mothers and fathers hold their children. Mothers are said to hold their kids so that they are facing them creating visual contact, where as fathers have them facing away from them. Having the children facing away from them shows the child their social environment. This gives them the opportunity to be safely secure in the hands of their dad but still open to new experiences. This is such a simple difference that creates a huge social impact in the developing child's life.
Number 2. The ability the dad has to rough house with his children is lead to many benefits. Mothers are just unable to play with their children the same way fathers are. Dads are constantly tickling, throwing, wresting, and more with their kids. This creates the child to pick up on beneficial skills otherwise they would not have obtained. Studies have shown that rough housing causes the child to become smarter, more resilient, socially adept, and more. If you want to know more on this topic I recommend watching the video that I have a link to on the bottom.
Number 3. Fathers who are involved in their children's lives are more likely to protect their children from the harmful activities such as drugs and sexual activity. Having a active father figure gives the sense of protection and moral direction that young children and growing teens need. They are able to show teenage boys how to treat and respect women while they are able to show their daughters how they should be treated.
Number 4. Fathers who are actively involved in the home has resulted in smarter children. From the article The Importance of Fathers, it says, "Students living in father-absent homes were twice as likely to repeat a grade as students with a father in the home." How cool is that!!! Just having a father in the home will insure your child's education.
Number 5. Fathers are the ones who determine how well your relationships are later in life. Those with fathers who are absent have a hard time making connections in relationships. They lack the ability to trust. Father-child relationships build trust and respect that help children as they grow up to create meaningful relationships that last. They are honestly the fix to a lot of the problems that families today are having.
I personally had a positive relationship with my father growing up. He always joked around with me and I defiantly experienced rough housing with him. My father always made it a commitment to be there for us. Before I was born he had a job working at a company that was forty five minutes away. At the time there were a few little ones at home. He had to make the decision of getting a job closer that paid less but having more time at home or working farther away, earning more, and seeing us less. The choice was hard because he wanted to be able to provide for his family financially but he knew that taking the job he wouldn't be able to help the family emotionally. The choice he made to take a job closer so he could spend more time with us has impacted me in a very positive way.
Having my father around has given me the confidence to undertake takes I may not have ever tried. I did pole vault for him even though it terrified me a bit. He gave me the courage and had the belief in me that I could accomplish anything. He set a standard and respected me in a way that showed me I deserved to be respected by others in that way. My dad gave me the love that only he could give. This love provides me with a set of expectations for my future husband that I never would have had without my dad's constant care.
When I was a senior I thought it would be so amazing to be apart of senior week. At that time all my friends had boyfriends so we thought it would be fun to rent a beach house for all of us. We looked up prices and eventually got to the part where we told our parents. I explained the financial situation, what we were doing, and then the part about how boys were coming with. He didn't say much but only strongly suggested that I do not go. This made me very upset and I felt as if he didn't trust me. I thought that I could handle myself and I wouldn't let a bad situation happen. I didn't end up going and I later learned that because he cares about me, he did not want me to go. He trusted me but felt that would not be the safest scenario. Because of my father's active role in my life I was able to stay safe from harm and have a better understanding of what I deserve.
In my future home I want to have the same kind of loving power. The guidance that only a strong father can give. I feel that the father is so important to the family and in order to make sure their is a strong father-child relationship, I will make sure to encourage it. When I am at home with the kids I will make sure to remind them that their father is at work helping to provide for the family. Another way I may encourage this bond is to make the home a calming atmosphere so when he gets back from work he has the time to play with the kids.
Before I even have my own family, I am going to make sure that the guy I marry has the same high standards of fatherhood that I do. I want him to be a loving protector and provider of the family. He should have the same goals that I have in wanting whats best for the family. I believe that as long as he is trying to be the best father he can be our children will have an amazing life.
In this article their is also an awesome video about rough hosing that I reccomend watching.
https://www.artofmanliness.com/articles/the-importance-of-fathers-according-to-science/
https://www.parenting.com/article/why-kids-need-their-dads
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